Is it fair to ask guest to pay for their meals at your child`s birthday party?

Hi!! My sister inlaw just called, she invited us to her daughter`s birthday party at Chucky Cheese`s. Is it poliet to ask guest to pay for their own meal?She said she didn`t have the money to pay for us, but she asked what gift we were bringing, do you folks think this is rude? I`m really angry, since we paid for her daughter`s entertainment when she came to our son`s party. Is this rude?Is it fair to ask guest to pay for their meals at your child`s birthday party?
VERY rude considering your past history with her.



If she cannot afford a birthday party at a restraunt, then she should use her brains, and have one at home and BBQ or cook something like in the old days.



I feel sorry for you, this seems very onsided, and unfortunately she is related to you.



Dont go, and DO tell her why. Perhaps she is so very backwards, that she honestly has no idea that she is being seen as a user and a loser. Its the kind thing to do.





ALSO.... do not buy her kids a gift this year at xmas. DOnt do it. I dont know where she is related to you, is she a brothers wife or your husbands? Just stop buying, tell her that you dont think its appropriate. I bet she will get upset, but then point out infront of others.... because users need to have this done... that she dosent ever buy for your kids, so you want to keep it level.Is it fair to ask guest to pay for their meals at your child`s birthday party?
I believe that it would be fair for her to pay for all of the children's meals and the adults should buy their own.
It is absolutely rude.Is it fair to ask guest to pay for their meals at your child`s birthday party?
lets just sum it up as you have an uncultured sister in law make do with what you can and remember it aint her fault its her mind doing that to her no offence
its fair so far so goodIs it fair to ask guest to pay for their meals at your child`s birthday party?
Yes it is rude. These days it seems birthday parties for children have to include great big expensive parties and goodie bags for the kids and such. If they chose Chucky Cheese's then they should only invite as many as they can pay for. Otherwise, why not have a nice get together at the park or home. If money is tight, there are many ways to honor a child's birthday. They could play games and then indulge in cake and a drink. Doesn't have to be elaborate.
Yeah, this is rude. When I invite guests over to our parties, we provide all the drinks, food, and entertainment. They are our guests, that's how it works. I would never go to a party and be expected to pay for my own food or drinks. If that's the case, why invite guests then? The hosts should treat, it's their party. I think she invited you just so she can get another gift for her son.
That's very rude. If she can't afford to pay for anything, she shouldn't be inviting people to come. She should have a party at home for free. I can't believe she asked what gift you were bringing either. TACKY
Yes this is very rude! If she doesn't have the money to pay for ALL the guests, she should have a smaller party! Some people have no manners.
yeah, it's very rude. if someone is giving a party at a place that cost money THEY pay it. if you can't afford it then you don't have it at a place that cost money. my family can't afford it so we almost always have a party at my house. i find that it's more fun really :) and people should never ask what gift you're bringing. it isn't polite. i'm only a teen and i know this.

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Totally uncouth.If she can't afford it she should do it the old fashion way at home.There is nothing wrong with having a BBQ and asking people to bring side a dish but what she's doing is embarrassing.
I always thought the rule is if you are throwing a party then you pay for everything,, however this does not seem the case with some people I know of a couple who had a wedding reception at a restaurant %26amp; everyone was given a bill to pay for their own meal ?? also your sister in law had to right to ask you about the present ??? I would be ticked off too..
I think that is extremely rude on your sister in laws part. If she cannot afford to pay for all the guests at the party then she should not have one.
YOU DO NOT invite people to a party and ask them to pay for themselves. It is rude.
Yes, it's in very bad taste. The person throwing the party should provide for all the guests, and not expect them to pay. Send your regrets that you can't attend.
It is very rude, unless she's very very broke, and she's only inviting very close family and friends who are aware of her situation.
It is not at all polite, in fact it is downright rude. That woman is having a birthday party for her child she hosting a charity drive. I feel sorry for her kid.

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